Is there an Art to Connecting?
Have you ever walked into a room full of strangers and wondered, now what?
You went there with a purpose, either a professional event, a networking group or maybe even just a casual social event.
Yet, here you are, standing at the door thinking…should I approach a complete stranger? Will someone approach me? Or maybe you’re evening thinking I should just leave and try this another time.
What is it that gets in our way? Are we afraid? I doubt it; I think, most likely, that as women we like to feel connected and walking into a room full of strangers makes us a little uncomfortable. The unknown sends us straight out of our comfort zone. I can honestly say this was my experience when I first started to network. So I learned a few tricks to help me feel more comfortable and productive when joining an event.
I’d like to share some tips I’ve learned on the Art of Connecting.
Tip #1: When you walk in the room, walk with a purpose and focus on something. Maybe a chair at the end of the room, or a painting so that it appears you are heading somewhere and not just wondering and hoping someone will approach you and start a conversation. (Now of course that is what we want, but we need to appear confident).
Next, once you’ve arrived at your destination, grab something to drink and look around and see if you can notice someone that you have something in common with, or someone that is wearing that FAB pair of shoes! You are looking for someone that you can strike an easy conversation with that it is not forced. “Like, great pair of shoes, or wow I see you work at…, or did I hear you say that you are a …fan?” These are easy soft opening sentences that will get the other person talking and in turn asking you some questions as well.
Stay tuned for my next blog where I will share 2 more tips on the Art of Connecting. In the meantime start practicing tip number one and comment below to let me know how it went.
Make it a FAB day